Ever since my mother as started working her two jobs she has
been complaining about how much she doesn’t want to be here anymore. I have no
idea where all this is coming from at all of a sudden. Of course I can
understand that you want your own house and everything but all that takes time.
She should be glad that she’s in a stable environment where she can save her
money up until she’s ready to make her move and get her own house. But, on the
other hand who would want to live with their ex -husband anyways.
What I am really concerned about is about my mother’s
drinking. I knew as soon as my mother got her jobs that she was going to start
drinking again. I guess to her it’s a way to relieve stress but I know that is
not the right way at all.
I feel like a soon as my mother starts drinking heavily she
is going to go back to her old ways and start saying things that she really
doesn’t mean because I know it is just the alcohol talking. When my mother
drinks it’s like a whole different person. It just seems like the more she
drinks the more I don’t want to be bothered with her at all. I just distance
myself from my mother when she starts to drink and it should never have to be
like that all when some starts drinking.
I really just want my mother to stay focused on her work and
reach for her goals and not worry about alcohol at all. All that money that she
spends on alcohol could be money she could be saving up for her new house, a
new car, or anything that’s going to help her in the future.
Wow, what a tough situation. I don't even really know what to say, other than that it really makes me open my eyes to some of the things other people go through in their lives.
ReplyDeleteI know you love her to death, but remember that your main focus should be you, and always make decisions that are best for you first, and try to help her after.
Do you have proof that she has been drinking? Or is this instinct kicking in?
ReplyDeleteHow about showing us the actual pattern of an alcoholic so we know the warning signs? You have great summary here, and now I'd like to see you enhance this text with expert opinion: what do psychologists or physicians say about what one can do to understand how to help/support an alcoholic, and how to "see the signs"?
That is a difficult situation. have you tried to talk to your mom about her drinking?
ReplyDeleteYou make a good point on her spending money on alcohol. She should be saving her money to move out and other things. But she should also be allowed to spend a little for her own pleasure.
I hope everything works out for the best!